Ways to control your ‘pleaser’ tendencies . . .

Eight Strategies for Politely Saying No

http://lifehacker.com/eight-strategies-for-politely-saying-no-1761508865

8 Ways to Say No Without Hurting Your Image

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140311110227-69244073-8-ways-to-say-no-without-hurting-your-image?trk=tod-posts-post1-ptlt

“1. The Deferral: “I’m swamped right now, but feel free to follow up”

2. The Referral: “I’m not qualified to do what you’re asking, but here’s something else”

3. The Introduction: “This isn’t in my wheelhouse, but I know someone who might be helpful”

4. The Bridge: “You two are working toward common goals”

5. The Triage: “Meet my colleague, who will set up a time to chat”

6. The Batch: “Others have posed the same question, so let’s chat together”

7. The Relational Account: “If I helped you, I’d be letting others down”

8. The Learning Opportunity”

A Scientific Guide to Effectively Saying No

http://lifehacker.com/a-scientific-guide-to-saying-no-1293242273

How People Pleasers Can Learn to Say “No” More Often

http://lifehacker.com/how-people-pleasers-can-learn-to-say-no-more-often-1524324151

Stephen