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What to Say When Someone is Getting Defensive

What to Say When Som is Getting Defensive

A defensive reaction can look argumentative, but it’s usually a response to a perceived threat.

“Defensiveness is a natural reaction when we feel attacked. It makes sense that we want to defend ourselves from physical harm or verbal criticism and blame. In conversations, though, defensiveness can quickly derail any hopes of understanding and moving forward. It’s even considered by relationship researchers John and Julie Gottman to be one of the four communication issues that can damage or end relationships.”

  1. Avoid getting defensive in return
  2. Take some space
  3. Add structure to your conversation
  4. Ask questions


Posted on: October 13, 2021, 1:47 pm Category: Uncategorized

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