I loved this posting. I meet quite a few librarian colleagues and one thing I see is that some colleagues see barriers and stop and some colleagues see barriers and see a challenge and try to work around, over or under them. Some describe these challenges with excuses and some look at the underlying reasons and seek to address those. The future of libraries will be created by those who show up and challenge.
7 Tips for Moving Through the Land of “If Only”
via Life Optimizer
“Note: This is a from Judy Belmont, M.S., L.P.C. of JudyBelmont.com
“IF ONLY …. I had taken the other job.”
“IF ONLY …. I had chosen another college.”
“IF ONLY …. I had gone to college!”
“IF ONLY …. I never broke up with her.”
“IF ONLY…… I never moved here.”
“IF ONLY …. I encouraged my kids to stick with music lessons.”
“IF ONLY …… I hadn’t said that!”
Here are seven tips to help you move through the Land of “If Only” to the Land of Today!
1. Use your broken dreams, disappointments and “what ifs” as stepping stones towards a better future. 2. Those who are stuck in the “woulda, coulda, shoulda’s” often have a hard time forgiving themselves for not knowing better or not doing any better, which seems so obvious in hindsight. Self-forgiveness is vital.
3. Remind yourself that you do not know what would have happened if you chose the other path – it could have been worse.
4. Refuse to play the “Blame Game.”
5. Realize that to be steeped in “if onlys” is to be stuck with unproductive regret.
6. Allow yourself to grieve.
7. Embrace “The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life!” Accept the fact that life is not smooth and predictable.”
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Life is full of regrets. The bad regrets are the ones we don’t learn from.
Stephen
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