How to Graciously Say No to Anyone

http://mashable.com/2014/09/10/how-to-say-no-to-anyone/

“Saying “no” gets easier with practice and repetition.

And having the right script—a starting point, so you’re not starting at a blank screen—can make all the difference.

Here’s a universal script that works for just about any scenario:

Hey [name],

Thanks for your note.

I’m so proud of you for ___—and I’m flattered that you’d like to bring my brain into the mix.

I need to say “no,” because ___.

But I would love to support you in a different way.

[Offer an alternative form of support here]

Thank you for being such a wonderful ___. I am honored to be part of your world.

[A few closing words of encouragement, if you’d like]

[Your name here]

For example:

Hey Angela,

Thanks for your note.

I’m so proud of you for deciding to apply for that small business owner award—and I’m flattered that you’d like to bring my brain into the mix.

I need to say “no,” because my week is already quite full—and I know it wouldn’t be sane (or humane) for me to add anything new to my plate.

But I would love to support you in a different way.

I’ve attached a couple of worksheets that I created for a recent writing workshop—including a couple of templates that will help you to craft a bio, a manifesto, and a few other pieces for your application.

Thank you for being such a wonderful friend and colleague. I am honored to be part of your world.

Good luck with the contest! I know you’re going to do a terrific job.

Alex

Here are three points to remember when you’re using this particular script—or something similar—to say “no” to a friend.

1. Say it Fast
2. Explain Why—Briefly
3. Propose Something Else”

Stephen